When Should Parents Consider Counselling for Their Child?

Children live in their own emotional and social age, which does not always match their biological age or our expectations as parents. As adults, we often adapt our behaviour to keep our children happy, engaged in learning, or constantly guided by advice. While our intentions are loving, how children receive this behaviour can be very different from how we perceive it.

Understanding the Child’s Inner World

Parents often assume:

“I am guiding them for their own good.”

“If I don’t intervene now, they may fail later.”

“Being involved means being responsible.”

But children may experience this as:

Pressure to perform or behave “perfectly”

Fear of disappointing parents

Lack of emotional space to express confusion, anger, or sadness

Feeling controlled rather than supported

Children interpret the world emotionally, not logically. What feels like care to a parent can sometimes feel like criticism, comparison, or control to a child.